When people hear the word “Masturbation” often the first image to come to mind is of a man, sitting in front of his computer watching porn with his male parts in hand. For centuries, society has portrayed sexual acts as designed for a man’s pleasure.
Masturbation is a very normal part of sexuality; however, women are often embarrassed to talk about it due to the stigma attached to it. We deny ourselves pleasure, seeking only to satisfy the needs of our men. As a nurse, I can tell you that the Clitoris was almost completely left out of any textbook I ever read. They did not discuss it at all.
Did you know that the Clitoris is the only part of the human body that was designed simply for pleasure?
Seriously? Yes! The clitoris is much larger than most women know. In fact, three-fourths of the clitoris is hidden from view. It averages 4 inches in length, and the longest ever recorded was a whopping 12 inches!
It is not a “button”. It is an intricate organ packed with thousands of nerves just waiting to be stimulated.
I want to share with you 10 great reasons why women should masturbate.
1. Masturbation Doesn’t Require a Partner.
Masturbation doesn’t demand that you to have another person present. It doesn’t require you spontaneous. It can take as long or as little time as you would like to invest in it.
2. Masturbation is Safe.
Since Masturbation is a solo event, there is no need for male or female condoms, diaphragms, or any other protective measures.
There is zero chance of catching a sexually transmitted disease. Furthermore, there is no risk of pregnancy. Orgasm minus risk equals perfect pleasure.
3. It teaches you how you like to be touched.
Many women have been with a man that just didn’t seem to understand how to give them pleasure. Each woman experiences pleasure in a different way. There are no cookie cutter instructions.
Masturbation allows you to explore your own body and learn what kinds of touch bring you pleasure. It teaches you what makes you hot, and what doesn’t. It can help build sexual confidence. Once you learn your own body, you are then able to communicate with your partner how to touch you in a way that will bring you pleasure.
If he truly cares about pleasing you, then he will be grateful to you for showing him what turns you on, and you will be significantly more satisfied during intimate moments with him. That is what I call a Win-Win!
4. Masturbation allows you to play without caring about what you look like.
Statistics show that women spend, on average, 1 hour and 40 minutes getting ready for a date. Over the course of a lifetime, that is a LOT of time!
Luckily, your hand or sex toy doesn’t care how you look. If you are feeling the urge in the morning, but you have bed head, your toy doesn’t care. If you are dressed in your ugliest, most comfortable pajamas, your toy doesn’t care about that either. No make-up on? Who cares?
5. Masturbation helps improve mood, Decrease Stress Levels and Can Increase Energy Levels
Life is full of stress. Family, work, friends, and all the commitments the modern woman has can take its toll on our minds and our bodies. Too much stress can cause a variety of health issues, including depression.
When you orgasm, your brain releases a neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Dopamine begins building during the anticipation stage of sexual arousal and continues through orgasm. Dopamine makes you feel good.
Masturbation causes the release of pleasure producing endorphins which boost your mood in the same way that having sex with a partner would. If you want to kick your blues to the curb, try masturbating.
6. Masturbation may help you sleep.
If you have insomnia, or just can’t seem to shake off the day enough to fall asleep, masturbation may be your solution.
When you orgasm, a hormone called prolactin is released. Prolactin is made and discharged by the pituitary gland. It is usually associated with lactation in breastfeeding women, but prolactin is also present in non-lactating women as well as in men.
Research performed on post-orgasmic women concluded that prolactin levels increased following orgasm. Furthermore, the more orgasms a woman had in a single sexual encounter, the higher the prolactin levels were.
A study down on animals injected with prolactin found that when the animals were given Prolactin, the became instantly sleepy. Because Prolactin is released during orgasm, it may just help you get a good night’s rest.
7. Masturbation may help teach you how to have an orgasm.
It is a sad statistical fact that nearly 75 percent of women NEVER reach orgasm from intercourse alone.
Worse still, 10 to 15 percent of women never reach orgasm from any form of sexual stimulation. Around 40 percent of women need clitoral stimulation, and need oral sex, manual stimulation, or sex toys, in order to climax.
Masturbation helps you learn what kinds of touch your body responses to in order to build up sexual tension. Since masturbation is a solo operation, it may be easier to relax your mind and your body, since there is no need to worry about what a partner is thinking or doing.
Masturbation also allows you to experiment with various types of pressures and speeds, so you can find the ones that most stimulate you. You may need rapid motion, a constant pressure, a slower motion or a combination of motions.
Vibrators typically have different speeds and vibrations so that you can experiment with what works best for you. There are even Oral Vibrators, designed specifically targets to your clitoris that will give you an oral sex type of sensation.
Some women find that using fantasy, reading erotica, or watching porn can help them achieve orgasm.
There are certainly medical and medication-related reasons that some women struggle to orgasm, however, it is possible for some women to teach themselves how to have one.
As I shared above, the clitoris is designed for pleasure. Each woman’s clitoris is unique and the size of it can affect what kinds of stimulation will lead to climax.
I recently listened to a podcast that was translated into text format. If you want more info about the clitoris and orgasms, this is a great read. Lucy Beresford, LBC (Leading Britain’s Conversation) The Clitoris – 10 Facts
To increase your chances of achieving orgasm, practice, practice, practice. Masturbate often. Don’t focus on the goal of orgasm. Touch yourself in different places and try multiple speeds, pressures and toys. Focus on learning what feels good. When you take the pressure off yourself by not focusing on climaxing, you just may find that orgasms are achieved more easily.
8. Masturbation may increase your sex drive.
I have read article after article talking about how to increase your sex drive. They list herbal supplements, medications, exercise, and a dozen other ways to increase your libido.
As I stated earlier, when you orgasm, Dopamine is released. Dopamine has been linked to addictions as well. Dopamine is released when a drug addict takes his/her drug of choice. It makes him/her feel good. Dopamine causes the drug addict to crave the drug. It works the same with sex. The more you have, the more you crave it.
9. Masturbation can relieve menstrual cramps
Research indicates that over 84 percent of women have menstrual pain during their period, with 43 percent menstrual cramps during every period.
Masturbation resulting in orgasm increases blood flow which has been shown to significantly decrease or eliminate period pain.
The stronger and more intense the orgasm, the more pain-relieving properties you may benefit from. Everyone has a different tolerance to pain. During an orgasm, pain tolerance also increases.
Sex with your partner will do the trick as well, so if you are both comfortable with period sex, go for it.
10. Masturbation may help retain your cognitive abilities.
Professor Barry Komisaruk, one of the top neuroscientists worldwide, has made it his life’s work to study female sexual pleasure and orgasms. He has conducted numerous studies, witnessing over 200 orgasms, while the women’s brains were being monitored in real-time to study the orgasms effect on the brain.
His studies have concluded that female orgasm triggers more than 80 different areas within the brain. Professor Komisaruk states, “We’re now looking at real-time MRI scans, so those being scanned can see what effects each touch and thought has.”
He believes that we may be able to learn to control certain areas of the brain, and goes on to say,
“It’s not inconceivable we could find therapies for those with addictions, anxiety or any mental health problem”.
Komisaruk states that orgasm may help maintain cognition better than doing puzzles or brain games. He believes it might even help in warding off Dementia. Mathew Barbour, The Sun, Why an orgasm could improve your memory. August 2013, Updated April 2016
Masturbation can help maintain both mental and physical health. It teaches you how you like to be touched and what feels good. It helps increase your sex drive, can help with insomnia or just getting a better night’s rest. It is completely safe. You can’t contract an STD or get pregnant.
It helps decrease pain and aids in relieving menstrual cramps. It decreases stress, can increase energy levels and give your mood a lift. It helps with learning how to orgasm and teach you how to have climax multiple times. It may even help with memory and cognition.
There are absolutely zero downsides to masturbation. So, turn down the lights, light some candles, play your favorite tunes and grab your lube. Do whatever it is that relaxes you and puts you in the mood.
Experiment with different toys and explore every area of your body. Become comfortable with yourself, then share what you have learned with your partner.
He will thank you for it and you will achieve greater sexual satisfaction and connection with your mate.
Note: When I say there are zero downsides to masturbating, I am referring to masturbation that does not interfere with work, family and social life.
Addiction to masturbation can lead to decreased productivity, time missed from work, and missed time with friends and family.
There have been instances when women have masturbated to the point that they no longer enjoy sex with their partner.
This is not healthy and can lead to an end to your relationship. Always remember that your partner has needs to, and if those needs are neglected, it can seriously jeopardize your relationship.
Also, when you masturbate using the same technique, toys, positions every single time, it can make it harder for you to orgasm with your partner. To avoid this, change up your masturbation routine frequently.
To avoid infections, make sure you wash your hands and toys with soap and water both before masturbating and afterward.
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